"Dawn's Next Boyfriend" Recap Episode

This weekend on "Dawn's Next Boyfriend" :

Midterms are coming up for all the contestants, including the bachelorette for the following week, so blogger decided to present a comprehensive recap of the entire show!

For the first week, Dawn was starting to recognize her new appeal with her new summer makeover, leading to three possible suitors. Challenge after challenge, she was able to gauge each guy's interest and how they expressed it. The phone proved to be an important medium, but at one point Dawn got so swamped with calls and costly text messages. At the end of the first week, Dawn gave the first rose to the one who used the phone to contact her and to set a time, date, and place, and refused a rose to the one who scared her away with news over the phone that he got back with his ex-girlfriend.

Second week, Dawn gets endless calls and texts from Gamma guy, and plans to go to Skittles party. Instead of meeting Gamma guy there, she hooks up with someone she grew to resent at the end of the night. Gamma guy gets eliminated, and Dawn worries that the challenge winner is spending too much time with her too soon with a show from Avenue Q and dinner, with coffee following the night after.

Now, it is the third week, and the man from the Skittles Party comes back to haunt Dawn. She still refuses her number, and blows him off in a manner that his ego couldn't handle. It doesn't shake the leading contestant, but it's not the end yet...he's not exclusive with the bachelorette.

Coming Up...
Managing midterms week!
Halloween celebration!
Meeting the Bachelorette's parents!
Surviving "the talk..." Will he back out?
Tune in to see who will be in the running to become Dawn's Next Boyfriend

Monogamy

How important is it to know where you stand on monogamy? Should one be quick to trust when another says, "I'm a long-term type of person?" And what about the ethics of open relationships?

Monogamy is just as confusing as trying to find out your sexual orientation; lately, I've been 'confused' for years at a time, even though I could've sworn I was meant for the long-term. If there's asexual, there's noncommital. If there's bisexual, there's serial monogamy. I wouldn't fill in the rest for the sake of political correctness. It's not that I don't know, it's that I'm never sure if I'm meant for one guy or one too many.

To answer my previous question, it's damn important to know whether you're monogamous or not. Your very happiness hinges on it. Nothing is more painful than realizing that the other person wanted something completely different from what you wanted; even accidentally wanting something else doesn't make it any less painful (more understandable, but no less painful). Which means, you get extra credit for finding out what the other person is really about too. It really pays to be smart about things here, and to not take a guy's words at face value. Women lie too, saying that they're not looking for something long-term just to sound cool and independent. And if a man says he's monogamous, but dreads the thought of marriage, then he doesn't break hearts (rather, he carves them out with a serrated knife in the form of his own fun). What I'm really saying here is that you as a person need to know what you honestly believe about monogamy, and know what the other person believes (not necessarily says) about it too.

So to get to the actual workings and benefits of monogamy, it's like insurance and security. Sure it's a label, but it's also an emotional and mental allowance to be able to let yourself go. I hesistate to say that that it's allowance to let go of some responsibility because it's really a shift in the kind of responsibility you now take: your partner's feelings. Taking care of another person is very different from taking care of yourself. There's nothing like feeling like someone else has got your back, and you can totally be yourself and still be looked after. It takes a lot of trust and communication to clarify that kind of situation, and that is why monogamy can be a big deal. It draws out the new rules for mutual happiness.

Calling it quits is tough.

Calling it off is never easy. What's makes it even more difficult is that there is no one best way to break up. The dumper leaves with guilt, the dumped feel caught off-guard. You deal with tears, breaking hearts and crushing egos, sometimes all at the same time. It's like emergency surgery without anesthesia; I had a root canal where no amount of anesthesia could numb the area that needed it the most. Oh, I cried and felt such a deep pain from having my pulp literally pulled out of me.

But as The Bachelorette, I deal with egos. If you remember what Gaston does when Belle refuses to marry him, then you can understand why I am scared. Granted my parents won't get kidnapped or anything, but who knows how an egoist responds to a bruised ego. Sure I get called stupid for trying to explain myself, sure he can talk all the smack for a month or so, and sure he can try to jeopardize my life in the most dehumanizing manner possible. Will it matter? For the most part, no. He is off my shoulders. I don't have to listen to any of it. And I have plenty of friends who can prove otherwise.

Regarding breakups, there are several things that MUST be mentioned:

-"it's absolutely over." Don't offer friendship if you're dealing with tears. It's too confusing and mixed a message.

-you have to draw new lines. It's your call.

-honor the time you had together. It's good for future reference.

-"I'll be fine." Don't worry about hurting me, and promise me you won't kill yourself after this.

New contestant!

Seriously, "Dawn's Next Boyfriend" can't end right there.

Latest twist: Hookup man enters the running!

Bachelorette's note: What the freakin' hell?! These writers stop at nothing for juicy drama. Clearly he's a pig and I'd try to refuse him a rose, but entering him into the mix was clearly done for drama. He's boorish, conceited, and muscly...like Gaston. Maybe he's going to cock block other contestants, be pushy, all that stuff. And to keep him long enough to stir some, he'll probably end up with elimination immunity for a week or two against my wishes.

To viewers: Watch as Gaston stirs things up. Tune in to see whether Dawn falls for steamy sex or lifelong love on "Dawn's Next Boyfriend"

Elimination #2

"The guy who always called but never met"

Conversation with Gamma guy grew stagnant over time, and especially paled in comparison. If it weren't for the strange turn of events leading up to the first elimination, Dawn would've refused the rose to whom she's withholding it from this round.

Factoring in her decision was the constant calling that she knew would lead to nowhere. She isn't cutting her losses here, she's just trying to make her life more convenient. Even phone tag and money wasted on his text messages is still a hassle.

Choosy Challenge

SPECIAL Bachelorette's note:

I wonder if they ever edit the Bachelorette to come off a certain way. So here's my chance to speak for myself. This show is starting to overwhelmingly tip to one contestant, and yet I seem to have little control over who gets to win extra one-on-one time. It can totally work for the guy, and totally work against me.

So I've decided to take this situation into my own hands, and use the time away from the guys to work for me. Nothing is scarier than getting attached too soon, and that's coming from me, a woman. I'm not the "wait two or three days after a date" type of person, but for the early stages, I definitely ought to go at the weekly rate, up until the end of a month of seeing someone. Why? So there won't be any diving headfirst into infatuation; for all you know, you might be jumping off the high dive into a waterless pool.

As the bachelorette, I owe it to myself to pace myself with each guy emotionally, because I know it will pay off in the long run. Till the next elimination ceremony!

Recap episode of week 1

Thursday night included a night out that did not necessarily include any of the contestants. It could've been a night when Dawn could've spent time with Gamma guy, but turns out he's too busy to make it that night. She attends "by herself," without her best friend, but makes friends while waiting for a ride. The dress was stunning, a shiny blue Charlotte Russe top, black jeans to hide the bruises on the legs, and white stiletto heels.



Unedited coverage:



The man who wouldn't leave her alone. "Granted his body was hot, and the action steamy," she decided not to put him in the running. "I believe there are times a hookup should just stay a hookup."

Elimination #1

The Guy Who Dwells too much on his ex.

Sunday was a heavily coveted spot, but the challenge winner was the bachelorette herself, as she took care of her apartment, did homework and rested. She needed the rest anyhow...she's coming down with a cold.

But the determining factor in her elimination came when she called one of the contestants, only to find out he's reeling over his reunion with his ex-girlfriend. While dumbstruck at the moment, Dawn was not surprised and distraught. She saw the signs, such as his rationalizing of the demise of his relationship out loud, and the calls and pleas to hang out were mere manifestations of rebound activity. After all, offering his bed/couch for the night and volunteering to drive her to the dentist the morning after were too many offers to be given from a stranger. She decided to nip her expectations in the bud, cut her losses-and him from her plans to watch Avenue Q.

Be careful what you wish for

So yes, I'm 21 and finally I realize that there is something about me. It's so new, exhilarating and daunting, all at the same time. If I'm full of secrets, this has got to be the most pressing one.

Enter: "Dawn's next boyfriend" premieres week 2.

Watch as she tries to juggle mutiple calls and pleas to hang out. Date by date, she will select those who will still be in the running to become "Dawn's Next Boyfriend."