Calling it quits is tough.

Calling it off is never easy. What's makes it even more difficult is that there is no one best way to break up. The dumper leaves with guilt, the dumped feel caught off-guard. You deal with tears, breaking hearts and crushing egos, sometimes all at the same time. It's like emergency surgery without anesthesia; I had a root canal where no amount of anesthesia could numb the area that needed it the most. Oh, I cried and felt such a deep pain from having my pulp literally pulled out of me.

But as The Bachelorette, I deal with egos. If you remember what Gaston does when Belle refuses to marry him, then you can understand why I am scared. Granted my parents won't get kidnapped or anything, but who knows how an egoist responds to a bruised ego. Sure I get called stupid for trying to explain myself, sure he can talk all the smack for a month or so, and sure he can try to jeopardize my life in the most dehumanizing manner possible. Will it matter? For the most part, no. He is off my shoulders. I don't have to listen to any of it. And I have plenty of friends who can prove otherwise.

Regarding breakups, there are several things that MUST be mentioned:

-"it's absolutely over." Don't offer friendship if you're dealing with tears. It's too confusing and mixed a message.

-you have to draw new lines. It's your call.

-honor the time you had together. It's good for future reference.

-"I'll be fine." Don't worry about hurting me, and promise me you won't kill yourself after this.