The prospects of juggling
We juggle many tasks in our life simultaneously.
Is it thrilling? If accomplishing several goals at once is, yes.
Is it dangerous? Of course.
How often should it be done? Only once in a while.
The premise of John Tucker Must Die is funny, but I'm afraid those girls may have themselves to blame. Cheating is bad, and it erodes at one's integrity at an alarming rate. But since when was commitment ever an unspoken given?
I once made the mistake of telling someone that dating several people at once seems fun. Then he proceeded to cheat on his girlfriend that night. Still, that doesn't stop me. There's no one for me to learn to love, trust, respect and communicate the dickens out of as of this moment. That's just a green light for me to expedite the process of seeing what kind of man I'd like to marry. Call it frivolous naivete, I call it an opportunity to know better, perhaps through my most convincing teacher, experience. Will it be a John Tucker one? Maybe. But what happens if a girl isn't monogamous as opposed to a guy who isn't monogamous?
As my dreams of getting married loom closer and closer towards my head, I still have to take some steps of having a fun time as a bachelorette, no matter how geared my heart is for continual long-term relationships. I will not, however, double book. I don't believe I'm unfaithful, but just limiting myself to dating one man at a time seems to be unfair to both the other guy party and myself. And I don't believe that dating somebody immediately equals ownership. I may have learned that the hard way.
Is it thrilling? If accomplishing several goals at once is, yes.
Is it dangerous? Of course.
How often should it be done? Only once in a while.
The premise of John Tucker Must Die is funny, but I'm afraid those girls may have themselves to blame. Cheating is bad, and it erodes at one's integrity at an alarming rate. But since when was commitment ever an unspoken given?
I once made the mistake of telling someone that dating several people at once seems fun. Then he proceeded to cheat on his girlfriend that night. Still, that doesn't stop me. There's no one for me to learn to love, trust, respect and communicate the dickens out of as of this moment. That's just a green light for me to expedite the process of seeing what kind of man I'd like to marry. Call it frivolous naivete, I call it an opportunity to know better, perhaps through my most convincing teacher, experience. Will it be a John Tucker one? Maybe. But what happens if a girl isn't monogamous as opposed to a guy who isn't monogamous?
As my dreams of getting married loom closer and closer towards my head, I still have to take some steps of having a fun time as a bachelorette, no matter how geared my heart is for continual long-term relationships. I will not, however, double book. I don't believe I'm unfaithful, but just limiting myself to dating one man at a time seems to be unfair to both the other guy party and myself. And I don't believe that dating somebody immediately equals ownership. I may have learned that the hard way.
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